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Dear Anna,

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year, and for the most part things are great. We’re both pretty sentimental people, but in different ways. I save things — not in a hoarder way, but I’ve kept shoeboxes of old letters, birthday cards and printed photos from past relationships going back to college. I don’t ...Read more

Why is it that something that should seem so easy – telling someone you’re not interested – is so hard for so many people? I certainly understand that no one wants to hurt someone’s feelings. But, in saying nothing (ghosting, if you will), you’re doing a lot more damage to their feelings than simply telling a high-level version of the ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I'm a 31-year-old man in a relationship with my girlfriend (29) for three years. Last week right after we’d had sex, she told me she'd been really turned on earlier that day because a guy at her gym had been flirting with her pretty heavily. She said it like it was just a fun, sexy confession, like she thought I'd find it hot or ...Read more

Writing a dating profile can feel daunting. There’s no disputing that, even if you only have to write 750 characters about yourself (that’s about average for most of the dating apps these days … very short, I know). It’s still hard to figure out which exact 750 characters to share.

Too often, a client comes to me asking, “How do I ...Read more

Writing a dating profile can feel daunting. There’s no disputing that, even if you only have to write 750 characters about yourself (that’s about average for most of the dating apps these days … very short, I know). It’s still hard to figure out which exact 750 characters to share.

Too often, a client comes to me asking, “How do I ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’m a 28-year-old woman who moved in with my boyfriend (30) after only four months of dating. It wasn't planned — my lease was ending, his roommate moved out and it just made sense financially and logistically. Plus, we were spending every night together anyway, so why pay for two places? We've now been living together for two ...Read more

Q: We’re two months in. Everything else is great, but he says we have no chemistry. Can it build? Give it more time?

A: I have a genuine question for you: Why would you want to be with someone who tells you that he has "no chemistry" (those are strong words) with you? Don't you think you deserve that, at a minimum?

With men, no, chemistry ...Read more

As Neil Sedaka so beautifully and succinctly put it (in both boppy and ballad form… I personally prefer the latter!), breaking up is hard to do. Today, we have four questions, all revolving around breakups. They’re never easy, but with time, patience, and perspective, they can be manageable.

Q: How long does it take to get over a breakup?

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As Neil Sedaka so beautifully and succinctly put it (in both boppy and ballad form… I personally prefer the latter!), breaking up is hard to do. Today, we have four questions, all revolving around breakups. They’re never easy, but with time, patience, and perspective, they can be manageable.

Q: How long does it take to get over a breakup?

...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year. Things have been great overall. But lately she’s become fixated on one of her close friends, not in a romantic way — more in a spiral of comparison. Her friend is pretty, but so is my girlfriend, except when she makes self-deprecating comments about how she “could never compete�...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He’s a total tech guy — the kind who buys every new gadget, talks to his smart home like it’s a pet, and stays way too late tinkering with AI tools “just to see what they can do.” I’ve always thought it was kind of endearing, if occasionally exhausting.

But last month, ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He’s a total tech guy — the kind who buys every new gadget, talks to his smart home like it’s a pet, and stays way too late tinkering with AI tools “just to see what they can do.” I’ve always thought it was kind of endearing, if occasionally exhausting.

But last month, ...Read more

Dear Readers: Since announcing my departure from writing this syndicated column, I have heard from scores of people across various platforms, thanking me for more than two decades of offering advice and wishing me well in my “retirement.” I am very touched and grateful for this outpouring of support.

The thing is – I don’t think of ...Read more